Thursday, August 4, 2011

* A Secret *

I want to share a secret with you. A secret of my secret secret dream. 

One day I'd like to open a place that will provide care and counsel to girls + women who need or want dating advice. Somewhere they can go and have someone listen to their stories and romance woes. Woes of boys who have broken their heart. Woes of men who were selfish and unkind. Stories of always being the girl overlooked because she's shy. Stories of boyfriends who don't understand a woman's needs. Stories only another woman can fully comprehend because we were all there at one point of our lives.

I want to be that person to hug each and every one of them and tell them, you are better than that. YOU are worthy of love. The best kind of love. Because you deserve it. I want to dry their tears and tell them to hold on. He's out there. Just be patient. And in the meantime, learn to truly love yourself first. Love yourself without a man in your life. Be your own person before you can be someone's girlfriend/wife. Don't let a man define your worth, attractiveness or identity.

And turn all the pain that came from him into fuel that will burn and refine you to being the strong, vibrant woman you were destined to be... who you always were deep down inside.

Be patient.
Don't settle. No excuses.
YOU are one of a kind.

One day soon...

A poem from me to you:

"After a While" by Veronica A. Shoffstall

After a while you learn
the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn
that love doesn't mean leaning
and company doesn't mean security.
And you begin to learn
that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of a woman, not the grief of a child
and you learn to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow's ground is
too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.
After a while you learn
that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone
to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
you really are strong
you really do have worth
and you learn

and you learn
with every goodbye, you learn...


  1. Hi Christine,

    Thank you for reminding us that we are all of a kind. We're just too caught up on how others see us to be ourselves. I really hope this place will come soon in the near future, it'll be really helpful to everyone out there.


  2. Hi Constance!

    It can be tough being a lady sometimes. It's good to have support and others who will have your back :]

    Thanks for reading and commenting hun <3

  3. I earnestly hope you achieve your dream. The world needs more people like you.

  4. i like secrets! especially secrets of secret dreams!

  5. @ Anon:
    Wow that ... made my day. Soo nice of you to say :]

    @ Eugene:
    That's why I wrote this. But you better keep it a secret!

  6. Just the truth. Seems like quite a few people aren't willing to lend a helping hand, when all it might take is someone to tell a person that they're worth more than they give themselves credit for.