Tuesday, November 29, 2011

* All We Have is Now *

Nothing ever happened in the past; it happened in the Now.
Nothing will ever happen in the future, it will happen in the Now.

What you think of as the past is a memory trace, stored in the mind, of a former Now. When you remember the past, you reactivate a memory trace - and you do so now. The future is an imagined Now, a projection of the mind. When the future comes, it comes as the Now. When you think about the future, you do it now. Past and future obviously have no reality of their own.

Any lesson from the past becomes relevant and is applied now.  Any planning as well as working toward acheieving a particular goal is done now.

- The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

Be present. In the moment. In the NOW. 
Because that's all we really have. 

Monday, November 28, 2011

* 10 Red Flags to See if You're Dating a Bad Guy *

Dating is already hard enough as it is without having to stop and analyze if he's a good or bad guy. And it can be especially difficult to gauge if you're already interested.

So here are where your girlfriends come in to help point out the bad apples. And since I consider myself your girlfriend, here are some common signs/red flags I've seen or noticed in aplenty of jerks:

1. Spits a nice game
Seems like whatever comes out of his mouth sounds a little too good to be true. As if he always knows just what to say. It may even sound like it's been rehearsed or practiced many times.. on other women. Well mostly likely it has been.

The... I've never met any girl like you, I've been looking for the right girl, I just want to love someone, girls always break my heart.. etc etc etc are some examples.

Though just because a guy has said these things to you doesn't mean he's a player. I know I know. Just be cautious if MOST things he says makes you AWWW way too often. 

2. White lies
If he's lying about the small stuff now, then it won't be long before he's lying about the big things.

3. His friends are douchebags
Close friends are a great indication of how a person truly is. So if most of his friends treat women as if they're disposable, then that's definitely something to be alerted about.

4. Stories don't match up
This does fall into the lying category but the very first time you realize his story isn't matching up, that's a HUGE red flag. HUGE! Unless he has a damn good reason as to why that is, get out. Liars aren't worth another minute of your time.

5. Family
His family isn't a priority. Yes many factors can come into play here, however if he's not treating them right now.. who's to say he won't be treating your future family that way?

6. Moving too fast
If things are going way too quickly and you're uncomfortable, let him know. Don't let him sweet talk you into doing things you're not ready to do. A good guy will make extra sure that the relationship is going at the pace that makes you happy and comfortable.

haha i love this gif.
She's so disturbed by the stupid boys
stop STOP!!! 

7. Anger issues
If he gets scary angry at any point, get out. LEAVE. And I mean the FIRST time it happens. GO! Calling you horrible names, yelling things that you wouldn't dare repeat to anyone, threatening you and definitely if he gets physical with you in any way... NONE of that is ok. EVER.

I know it's easier said than done, but tell someone. Get help. Don't stay with a man who can't control himself. Those things can spiral out of control and it's never worth you getting hurt physically and emotionally. Even when he promises and swears on heaven and earth he will never do it again and tells you how much he loves you, don't give in. No second chances. Because a person who truly loves you will NEVER hurt you that way.

Leave him a number to an anger management center, walk out that door and never look back.

* Help Hotline for Domestic Abuse: 800-799-SAFE
* TheHotline.org
* More info from Oprah

8. Not nice to people in general
If he's a jerk to the waiter or any stranger you guys come in contact with, he's a jerk through and through. Even if he is super sweet to you,  it doesn't matter. It's just a front to get whatever he wants from you.

9. Stomps on your heart
There's never a good way to break someone's heart. But there are clear ok ways and BAD ways to go about it. And if he does it in a totally selfish and unkind way... he's a bad guy. I don't care what his reasons are and if he's right to end the relationship. If he ends things out of the blue or he cheated or lied ... bad guy... BAD GUY.

10. Your friends don't like him
Trust your friends. They can see things you can't sometimes. If the consensus amongst the people closest to you is that he needs to go, then you should definitely take note of that.

Again, these are just potential signs.
But like anything with the matter of the heart, it's better to be safe than sorry.

Monday, November 21, 2011

* How To Live Your Dream Career *

I can say with great certainty and gratefulness that I am living my dream career right now.  Everything I've ever wanted and spent years looking for.. dreaming for in a fulfilling job is happening. And more!

Which is why I feel I'm in a position to encourage others to not give up. Your dreams are NOT impossible despite every practical and logical reason that crosses your mind. And really, that's your greatest hurdle. Your mindset.

I can assure you that for several long years, I was a lost person. I tried to do the things that would please my family. That didn't work.

Then I tried to do things that I thought would please me. That also was a fail. It wasn't until I had gone through so many runs of trial and error that I eventually found myself in front of a road. A road which I had no idea where it would lead me. All I had was a "this feels right" feeling and that was all I needed.

That's when I decided if I was going to do this, I would go all in.
And yes, I dealt with a lot of doubts, what are you doings, putting myself down for when nothing happened, unsatisfied parents, friends who didn't get it but were still supportive, feeling so discouraged...etc etc etc.

And you know what? ALL that led me to where I am now. A proud producer at Wong Fu Productions who gets to work my own hours, wake up past 11am, work on film shoots, meet and work with AMAZINGLY good good people, travel, create, support, learn, be challenged, watch all the youtube & movies I desire, have the absolute best bosses/coworkers ever.. EVER!! And not a moment of it has felt like work. None of it.

So what's the big secret to all this? ... ready for it?
Here it is.


And when you do, DONT GIVE UP.

You have to trust me when I say this. If you never set on the path to start on your dreams, it's never going to happen. That is for sure. It's like waiting for the lottery to just be handed to you. No my friend. You have to go out and buy the ticket first.. maybe spend a couple years buying tickets until that big money moment. Because when that opportunity comes your way and you're not ready... it's just going to pass you by... and go onto the next person who is.


So to help you get motivated to start living your dreams, select from the following inspirational quotes...

We have nice and sweet:

in your face:

or the personal experience of one of the most successful people of all times:

whichever you prefer
it's your life after all.

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

* Why *

One of the main reasons why I'm starting the forum (top 10K reblogged post on tumblr):

That's something that not only teenage girls can relate to really... 
So I only have this to say now to anyone who feels the same way:


[Insert appropriate inspirational photo here]

ehh.. close enough

-What are you going to do today Napoleon?
-Whatever I feel like I wanna do. Gosh!

Monday, November 14, 2011

* I'm SO Excited!! *

Quick forum update:

I promise you I'm working on getting it up and running soon!
Here's proof that the first step has been done (registering!)

I know kinda boring huh

Now to customize it and make it pretty for all you ladies :]
Give me some time to figure all this out... I'm definitely starting from scratch.
But rest assured I will do my absolute best not to disappoint you <3


Saturday, November 12, 2011

* Movie Quote Favorites *

Sarah: I don't just want to do random dating. I want to be in love. I want to wake up next to someone and see them smile, do the whole Sunday breakfast thing, go out and get the paper, stay in bed together all day. 

- Must Love Dogs

What a great line
what a lovely thought

* Here Goes Nothing... *

I made a decision based on a reason which I promised myself years ago I would never consider again .. and I've kept that promise for many years now.

thank you thank you. 
you're too kind.

However this particular time.. this moment... something told me to think again. And if I want to be completely honest with myself, I've been wanting (nay) dare I say craving a change in that part of my life for quite a while now. So in order for a change to happen, I have to start by making changes in my life. Even if they don't end up turning out the way I wanted, at least I knew I went for it.

Needless to say there has been a great internal struggle for me. 

It's easy to go with what's most natural to me. It also doesn't help that others don't agree with my decision. But deep down, I have a feeling... a nudge. And if I can't take my own advice about drowning out all the voices and listening to the one that matters the most, then how do I expect others to?

So here goes nothing ...

Thursday, November 10, 2011

* Now or Never *

For anyone out there who needs to hear this

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

* Are You Prince Material *

Since we're on the subject of princesses, let's talk royalty shall we.

Most women at one point of their lives will say they are looking and waiting for their prince. Indeed being "someone's prince" can mean different things to different women. However, do guys out there now have even the basic qualities of a prince worthy of years and years of a lady's daydreams?

Let's find out.

A Prince:

- Courageous: The dictionary defines this word as being able to face and deal with danger or fear without flinching. I actually know many guys out there who'll flinch at the sight of a bee, possum or sometimes even a spider.

 ya don't ever do that

I will say this. It's very attractive when a man takes charge and is fearless when something scary happens.

- Strong moral code: Every prince is a do gooder. He knows and acts upon what's right. Not only that but he'll step in to protect and honor those who are being treated unjustly.

- Well respected/Well liked: Ask any woman. She will gladly hold a man's arm who walks into a room and everyone is genuinely proud to call him their friend. It says a lot when a man is well received by his peers. It says to the lady that she'll be proud to call you her man.

- Gentlemanly: This goes without saying really. If you need a refresher, click here. You can't be a prince and not possess impeccable manners. It just goes hand in hand.

ahh classy.
 [side note]: Having a mustache does not automatically make you a gentleman

- Kind, gentle and understanding: You can be strong and manly. But being kind, gentle and understanding is just as important if not even more so. No one wants to spend their happily ever after with a jerk.

- Charming: Oh yes. Charm it's quite lovely when it's real and holds no ulterior motive. They don't call him Prince Charming for nothing.

- Good kisser: I'm not quite sure how you can tell if you're a good kisser unless someone has told you before. But of course every girl dreams of that first kiss with the man of her dreams. It's actually giving me butterflies just thinking about it now :X So go forth and research how to take a girl's breath away with just one kiss.

Actually you may reference this clip from P.S. I Love You. Oh my goodness I looove this scene. This is how a real man kisses:

Moral of the story, don't be like Timmy who's just a boy-o and doesn't know anything about kissing. It's a man's business!

and p.s. if a girl gasps like that after you kiss, then you know you're doing it right.

Ok moving on... last but not least.

- Treating a lady like a real lady: It's quite surprising how guys these days don't value women as they should be valued. Granted one can make the argument it's because ladies these days don't act like ladies but that will be a whole different entry on its own.

Really though it's as simple as going out of your way in making sure you're being nice to a girl. Making sure she's comfortable, special and being taken care of... by you of all people! Don't: put her down, call her names that men should never call a woman (no matter how much she deserves it), be inconsiderate or just plain rude.


She's a princess after all.

Who likes to twirl and twirl

So if you're a guy and feel like you've checked yes to all of the above then,
a.) Bravo! You do exist!
b.) Teach a class so we can all be blessed with a world full of prince charmings
c.) Leave your name and number in the comments below :] You know.. for my friends...yea.. my friends :X