We should never underestimate the power of media and its potential to shape lives.
Things in which we may view as "just pure entertainment" and think nothing of its consequences can really be damaging either now or in a person's future thoughts or behavior.
Which is why I take things seriously when it comes to the entertainment industry. Movies I grew up watching have stayed with me throughout all these years. I can actually trace back to exact scenes and lines that have subconsciously impacted my life and which I strive to recreate in my own way.
The First Wives Club is a perfect example. Jaded first wives whose husbands have done them wrong in the most awful ways join together to help each other realize they are capable of being strong, vibrant and beautiful women without needing a man. After which they form a sisterhood that seeks to help other emotionally battered women. UH yea. If it weren't for this movie, I honestly don't think I would be starting this forum.
I've always deeply admired an independent person who after much pain and struggle has achieved success on his/her own terms and then took it a step further to connect with other people in similar situations who desire support.
So don't tell me it's JUST entertainment. No. It's definitely so much more than that. If we can walk away feeling proud to show our children and parents our work, then I believe we're fulfilling the overwhelming potential of this industry. Or else yes. Hollywood is just a cold harded, superficial business with good looking people (with or without genuine talent) wanting to get rich and famous quick.
Why settle for just that though?
We can do better. We need to do better. We owe to ourselves and any child who replays his/her favorite movie for the upteenth time, runs outside and says to himself, "that could be me one day."
So what's our story going to be?
You know even if you're not the filmmaker, watch and support those who create quality content with stories that deserve to be told. Your movie ticket matters. Your view on youtube matters. Your remote control matters.
Ladies, in order for guys to treat us like ladies we need to first be one.
It's easy to forget how to behave like a lady nowadays. Manners, consideration, dress attire, morals, etiquette... are all so skewed. So much so that it affects how others view and act towards us. And that's not ok.
Before I get into it, I've only listed the very basics of what a lady means to me. It may vary from person to person depending on how far you want to take things. Just keep in mind I'm not saying girls need to be boring, lack personality or humor, be brainless, or act like a prude. On the contrary, a modern lady would keep all her wit and ambitions but execute them with class.
With that said, let's get started...
If you're going to call yourself a lady.. dress like one!
I totally get wanting to look sexy. But there's definitely a time and place for it. Club .. ok but with some class please. Lunch at a family restaurant, no.
Let me say, even at a nightclub or bar.. there's a very thin line between looking trashy and looking sexy. Sexy can be done tastefully.
Warning: The less you wear, the more you're asking for men to treat you inappropriately. No that absolutely doesn't mean it's tolerable for the fellas to physically or verbally mistreat you. But to be honest, you're asking for it. Seriously you are. Avoid it by NOT crossing that line. If you ever have to question yourself, choose something that covers more skin.
Go out of your way to be kind to people. Be considerate to others. "Yes please," "thank you," "you're welcome" don't take much time or effort to say. Use them once in awhile.
Keep your mouth shut PLEASE.
Keep your mouth shut. THANK YOU.
A girl who has to use a cuss word in between every other word in a sentence is not someone I would take seriously. In fact, I would have stopped listening halfway through that sentence. There's nothing "wrong" with saying a "bad word." I know I've let a couple slip before. And you know what I realized? It really comes down to it being a bad habit.
Start substituting with other adjectives or.. sound place holders. Or better yet, omit the cussing completely out of your vocabulary. I mean really, what value does it add to your thought? If anything, it's being considerate to the people you're talking to. Not everyone enjoys a potty mouth conversation.
[exception]: Yes I know.. at times, there are situations where there's no other word to use when you're extremely upset.
In that case... go for it.
Just try to make that a rare occurrence.
(I'm just kidding. You can say that sentence all the time)
The quickest way to be thought of .. unladylike is having loose morals. I'm not judging. Every girl has a right to make her own decisions. But make sure those decisions are right to you. There's a moment for each lady right before she's about to do something she's not sure about. Pay attention to that moment. That feeling. It's easy to forget in the heat/rush of the everything. But there's always a moment.
Make the right choice for you.
Be respectful to everyone regardless if you think they deserve it or not. And that includes yourself. Think about it. Do you truly respect yourself? Do you see yourself as a lady? Worthy of being treated like one? Your actions absolutely reflect how you answer those questions.
If you don't believe so, how can you expect others to?
If you don't believe me, perhaps you'll believe it when Zac says it.
At the end of the day, be a lady for you. Because you deserve to be regarded as one and treated as such. You are worth it. You are special. You are amazingly beautiful inside and out. Don't let others make you think otherwise.
Omg my favorite question in the world.
Can men and women be real friends?
My girlfriends hate talking about this topic because they would like to believe otherwise as I'm sure many people out there would as well. But I honestly believe it's true. Men and women can't be real friends. It's difficult to have a completely neutral friendship... unless of course one gender is gay.
To me, being completely 100% neutral is how girlfriends are with each other and how bromance is with guys. No matter how close you guys/ladies get, you'll never develop or come to develop feelings for each other. But with guy + girl friends, that factor is always there. The possibility. Whether it's stated or acknowledged.. it's there.
Of course like any rule, there can be exceptions.
1.) If you've been close friends for several several years.. at least 7+
2.) If both parties are in long term relationships with other people
That's all I've been able to add on there. But even then, I know people who have still gotten together after both those exceptions.
Anyways, what I've learned throughout the years is no matter how much you try to deny it, guys and girls can't be true friends because someone will always (secretly) want more than friendship.
Sorry to burst your bubbles.
So ladies, keep that in mind the next time you THINK your guy friend just wants to go "shopping" with you because he REALLY needs some fashion advice from you. Or the fact he goes out of his way to clear his schedule so he can go watch the latest chick flick you've been dying to see.
He might be a nice guy but he definitely wants something more. Whether you want to admit it or not. Just try not to take advantage of the poor guy. And definitely don't ask him for guy advice on how to get with ANOTHER guy. It's secretly killing him inside.
However, if you insist on pushing him don't be surprised when one day he'll be "weird," moody and distant. It won't be long before he'll explode and say he can no longer be friends with you.
If you're still confused at that point, come back to this post and you'll know why.
We recently released our latest mv with Magnetic North, Taiyo Na ft Sam Kang:
The very essence of what this video stands for is exactly why I do what I do. Why every day I wake up excited to get the day started, why every late night and why every production complication is worthwhile. So amazingly fantastical people can tell their stories and they can be heard.
And you know, that's the thing when you work at a good good company that actually cares. You get to meet and work with other good good people who genuinely love what they do.. and it shows. Theresa and Derek (Magnetic North) and Taiyo ... good good people. Their music is a direct reflection of the kinds of people they are. They treat others with such consideration and kindness that you can't help but feel like family with them. I definitely feel privileged to know them.
Taiyo, Theresa, Derek
I hope you do enjoy this mv. Live life with no regrets. No I shoulda coulda wouldas.. or I wish I had...
We only get each day as it's given to us. Don't waste it on the "you have to's."
You won't even remember those days. You will remember the ones you took a chance, spent time with loved ones and truly lived.
Read an article that gave great great advice for anyone in their 20's and possibly going through a quarter life crisis. I started going through mine in my early 20's.
Here are some excerpts that resounded with me:
You Have Time to Find a Job You Love
Now is the time to figure out what kind of work you love to do. What are you good at? What makes you feel alive? What do you dream about? You can go back to school now, switch directions entirely. You can work for almost nothing, or live in another country or volunteer long hours for something that moves you. There will be a time when finances and schedules make this a little trickier, so do it now. Try it, apply for it, get up and do it.
When I was 25, I was in my third job in as many years—all in the same area at a church, but the responsibilities were different each time. I was frustrated at the end of the third year because I didn’t know exactly what I wanted to do next. I didn’t feel like I’d found my place yet. I met with my boss, who was in his 50s. I told him how anxious I was about finding the one perfect job for me, and quick. He asked me how old I was, and when I told him I was 25, he told me I couldn’t complain to him about finding the right job until I was 32. In his opinion, it takes about 10 years after college to find the right fit, and anyone who finds it earlier than that is just plain lucky. So use every bit of your 10 years: try things, take classes, start over.
Don’t Rush Dating and Marriage
Now is also the time to get serious about relationships. And “serious” might mean walking away from a dating relationship that’s good but not great. Some of the most life-shaping decisions you’ll make during this time will be about walking away from good-enough, in search of can’t-live-without. One of the only truly devastating mistakes you can make in this season is staying with the wrong person even though you know he or she is the wrong person. It’s not fair to that person, and it’s not fair to you.
“Who are you dating?” “Do you think he’s the one?” “Have you looked at rings?” It’s easy to be seduced by the romance-dating-marriage narrative. We confer a lot of status and respect on people who are getting married—we buy them presents and consider them as more adult and more responsible.
But there’s nothing inherently more responsible or more admirable about being married. I’m thankful to be celebrating my 10th wedding anniversary this summer, but at the same time, I have a fair amount of friends whose marriages are ending—friends whose weddings we danced at, whose wedding cake we ate, whose rings we oohed-and-aahed over but that have been taken off fingers a long time ago.
Some people view marriage as the next step to happiness or grown-up life or some kind of legitimacy, and in their mad desire to be married, they overlook significant issues in the relationship.
Ask your friends, family members and mentors what they think of the person you’re dating and your relationship. Go through premarital counseling before you are engaged, because, really, engagement is largely about wedding planning, and it’s tough to see the flaws in a relationship clearly when you’re wearing a diamond and you have a deposit on an event space.
I’m kind of a broken record on this. My younger friends will tell you I say the same things over and over when they talk to me about love, things like, “He seems great—what’s the rush?” and, “Yes, I like her—give it a year.” And they’ve heard this one a million times: “Time is on your side.” Really, it is.
Give Your Best to Friends and Family
While twentysomethings can sometimes spend a little too much energy on dating and marriage, they probably spend too little energy on friendships and family. That girl you just met and now text 76 times a day probably won’t be a part of your life in 10 years, but the guys you lived with in college, if you keep investing in them, will be friends for a lifetime. Lots of people move around in their 20s, but even across the distance, make an effort to invest in the friendships that are important to you. Loyalty is no small thing, especially in a season during which so many other things are shifting.
Family is a tricky thing in your 20s—to learn how to be an adult out on your own but to also maintain a healthy relationship with your parents—but those relationships are really, really worth investing in. I have a new vantage point on this now that I’m a parent. When my parents momentarily forget I’m an adult, I remind myself that someday this little boy of ours will drive a car, get a job and buy a home. I know that even then it will be hard not to scrape his hair across his forehead or tell him his eyes are looking sleepy, and I give my parents a break for still seeing me as their little girl every once in a while.
Don’t Get Stuck
This is the thing: When you hit 28 or 30, everything begins to divide. You can see very clearly two kinds of people. On one side, people who have used their 20s to learn and grow, to find God and themselves and their dreams, people who know what works and what doesn’t, who have pushed through to become real live adults. Then there’s the other kind, who are hanging onto college, or high school even, with all their might. They’ve stayed in jobs they hate, because they’re too scared to get another one. They’ve stayed with men or women who are good but not great, because they don’t want to be lonely. They mean to find a church, they mean to develop intimate friendships, they mean to stop drinking like life is one big frat party. But they don’t do those things, so they live in an extended adolescence, no closer to adulthood than when they graduated.
Don’t be like that. Don’t get stuck. Move, travel, take a class, take a risk. There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don’t lose yourself at happy hour, but don’t lose yourself on the corporate ladder either. Stop every once in a while and go out to coffee or climb in bed with your journal.
Ask yourself some good questions like: “Am I proud of the life I’m living? What have I tried this month? What have I learned about God this year? What parts of my childhood faith am I leaving behind, and what parts am I choosing to keep? Do the people I’m spending time with give me life, or make me feel small? Is there any brokenness in my life that’s keeping me from moving forward?”
Now is your time. Walk closely with people you love, and with people who believe God is good and life is a grand adventure. Don’t get stuck in the past, and don’t try to fast-forward yourself into a future you haven’t yet earned.
Give today all the love and intensity and courage you can, and keep traveling honestly along life’s path.
So every year we have something called the Santa Ana winds that blow through Socal with intense purpose. I like to refer to it as Totoro Wind.
It does leave behind quite a mess and this year is no different. There are power outages, torn tree branches everywhere and bad hair toupees making their presence known.
People freak out like it's the end of the world. This boggles my mind. Yes it's not normal. Yes it does get crazy and yes our lives are somewhat disrupted with inconveniences. But get a grip.
Instead of grumbling and complaining, I believe we're thinking about it all wrong. The fact that you're able to read my post right now indicates that you have access or own a device that still allows you to connect to the internet. Good. Also, the fact that you're still ALIVE and functioning is an even greater and quite fabulous news.
So really when you truly stop to think about it, our daily lives (sans the insane wind) are actually very blessed. Yet even during those days, we complain. A day where we're able to drive to work because our car isn't smashed by a fallen tree is a WONDERFUL day. A day when we can go online, have heat, eat hot food and have the lights on and off by our choice is a FANTASTICAL day!
Even with a blustery day like today, it could always be worse.
And if anything.. it's the perfect day to fly a kite :]
So here's to appreciating the little things.. which really when you add them up come out to pretty big things that we often take for granted.
Life is Good.
Happy first day of December btw.
I have a feeling it's going to be the most beautiful yet <3